Celebrating the holidays after the loss of a loved one feels different. A time that was once filled with joy, laughter, and gratitude may be replaced with feelings of emptiness and grief. Unfortunately, I am familiar with those feelings this year.

My aunt passed away in March, and with the holidays approaching, I can’t help but think about the presence that will be missing from our family gatherings.

Recently, I was reminded that I should remain hopeful this holiday season.

While watching TV with my family the other night, a Coca-Cola commercial aired. The commercial begins with a young man preparing his grandmother’s recipe for his family’s holiday dinner. He is struggling, but his grandmother joins him, gently nudging him in the right direction. He successfully prepares dinner right as the guests arrive! As he looks at his grandmother with gratitude, the camera pans to the mirror. Only his reflection is present. The family begins eating, and a portrait of the late grandmother is shown above the fireplace.

Even though I shed a few tears while watching this commercial, I felt hopeful for the first time in a while. I was reminded that it was okay to miss my aunt, but she could still be present at our Christmas celebration because the holidays always find a way.

In the spirit of remembrance, I have thought of a few ways that I could honor my aunt’s memory this year. First, I bought a ladybug ornament for our Christmas tree. As a child, I always gave her a ladybug-themed gift because she thought they were beautiful. When I see the decoration, I am reminded of the joy I felt during those past celebrations with her.

In addition, I made a tribute donation in her name to the Hospice of the Western Reserve. In her last month, the staff took great care of her, and I know she appreciated their kindness. I wanted to give back this holiday season and donating to the organization that assisted my family during a difficult time was a great way to honor her memory.

Lastly, I wrote a special prayer to say before Christmas dinner. Afterward, I will invite each family member to share one reason why they miss our departed loved one. I hope this will bring us closer and help us take a step toward healing.

Jesus came into this world to bring us to the light from the darkness. He serves as a reminder that even in our darkness, we can be a light. I draw my strength through Him, and I encourage you all to do the same.

I’ll miss my aunt, but our connection transcends death. I will keep her memory alive in my heart and through my actions.

Wishing you a Blessed Christmas and a New Year filled with the peace of knowing Christ’s love.  

Written by: Paige Muttillo | Marketing Manager | Catholic Cemeteries Association